Full-Time Mom 3 kids Military

[sahm321]

Husband is no longer happy and wants divorce. Prior to marriage we discussed if we had children that a stay-at-home parent is important until they are grown. I've been home with our children since the 1st one was born. They are now 7, 6 and 3. We have been married 10 years. He's in the military (19 years) and makes around $100k/year. We are both on the title of our home, but only he signed the loan because with no income on my end our interest rate on loan would've probably been higher. I have a bachelor's degree, but have not used it in over 7 years. I like our neighborhood, and my convictions on a parents being home with children after school are very important (I've seen too many trouble makers from kids who are in the tween years). I've taken them to school every morning, deal with friends b-day parties and plan my own childrens' events, I make sure they're registered for their sports, I volunteer at schools, etc. I'm just afraid our whole standard of living will be destroyed, and am trying to see what our future will be like if he does file. How will the house be divided, will I continue to stay home with our children, in order to stay home with my kids would I have to move in a less-desireable neighborhood, are military divorces different than civilian, who pays attorney fees?

[Attorney Howard Iken]

In most regards, a military divorce will be identical to any other.

The house and related loans will be divided - most likely equally. It does not matter that only one name is on the loan.

For a 10 year marriage, it is highly likely you will get rehabilitative alimony. That would short term, 1 - 5 years, to enable you to go back to school.

There is some chance for permanent alimony but it may be an uphill battle that depends on other factors.

Standard of living is always impacted because there is rarely enough money to maintain two households in the same manner.

There will be child support if you get the majority of parenting time - and it sounds like you will. Attorney fees are up to the judge but you probably will get a contribution from him.




Attorney Howard Iken
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[sahm321]

Thank you! I'll keep you in mind when the time comes.