I need advice

[Betrayedwife2010]

I just found out that my husband of nearly 15 years is having an affair on me. He recently left the home on 04/07/10. He left for the other woman and I dont jnow what I am entitled to. Can I change the locks on the doors, and how can I be sure he will continue to pay the mortgage payment.He is not thinking clearly, but I have to think about my future. We had this house built together and we have been married for 15 years in OCT. He makes more oney than I do, about 8 or 9 dollars more on the hour, and I want to be ablt to live the life style that I am used to living. Am I entitled to alimony? Please advise me on what to do I am lost and I really dont know what is coming next. I sure he will file for a divorce because he I think he truly thinks that this what he wants. And thats fine, but I want to protect my rights and what I have worked hard for all thses years. The cildren are grown by the youngest one in college still lives in the home with me, how-ever my husband has raised the 2 children as his own. I am asking what my rights are and how do I go about making sure that they are protected. I also know that he is still seeing her after telling me that he had called it off because he knew that it was wrong. I took pictures today of his car out in front of her house. A cheat and a lair. so I cant believe in a word he has to say. They only thing that might work for me right now is his guilt.

hurting in Palm Bay Fl

[Attorney Howard Iken]

In a 15 year marriage alimony will be an issue. Not enough info here to comment further on that.

You can change the locks - but he has the right to change them back.

There are few ways to ensure timely payment of the mortgage. In some jurisdictions, you can schedule an early hearing for temporary relief - which is a hearing on issues such as temporary bill payment.

Attorney Howard Iken
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[Betrayedwife2010]

Thank you for the reply to my message. I had been trying to find out info for a few days. I just wanted to know where I might stand in my rights if this comes to a divorce. I am sure that I have a lot of pain and hurt to work out before I make any rash dicisions. Right know I just have the anger and pain and hurt emotions all rolled into one. We had the house built in 2002 and we have live in this house sinse. He makes 48,000.00 after the 401 k comes out about 51,000.00 before. I make about 28,000 after the 401 k is taken out and abouy 30,000.00 before. WE both have a 401 k and also we both have a rollo-over acount from a previous employer. I understand that they are split 50-50 he has more than I do in his accounts. we still owe 95,000.00 on the house in a mortgage. The there is the 2nd mortgage also its small , but still there. We have all kinds of keepsakes and family hierlooms that was given to us by family and they belong to us both after all theses years, I guess that sory of stuff can be split evenly up. I changed the locks on the doors because he voluntarly left. He was moving stuff out while I was at work. Someone happened to let me know that, so I can home and stopped him from taking more of the stuff that we owned together. I dont care for him to have some things, but some things belong to the both of us. He took all our photo albums. He said he is going to scan them in the computer then give them back. These things cant be replaced, its the kids pictures and our through the years on vacations, and other things birthdays parties, Christmas pictures etc, all the family photos. He took all the toold that we had in the garage, yes they are mainly mens, but I need some tools around here if anything should happened that I might need something to fix it with. He took one book case with alot of his book , but then again he did take some books that were also mine too. So if I had not came home, he could have cleaned it out completely. I did change the door locks.Just because I want to be here if he decides to take anything else, if he ask for something he can have it, but I just dont want everything dissappearing from the house. I also do not want the other woman in my house. So as you can see I am kind of angry right niow, a coupke of months down the road I dont know if we can try to make this marriage work or not, I do know that I deserve better treatment than what I have recieved as of now. I treat our pets better than he has treated me in months, so I am just returning some of the same treatment. I just want to protect our assets.


Thanks again