Gaining Custody due to Unstable environment?

[Alotters]

My wife and I have been divorced for almost 4 years now and we have had joint custody. She has primary and I secondary. I see the boys (8 & 12) on the weekends (2 on, 1 off) and during breaks or shared holidays.

During those 4 years a few things have happened:

Mother
Been Unemployed frequently
Moved 4 times
Had abusive boyfriend
Boys have missed TONS of school
Boys have no friends due to moving to a different school every year
Mother parties and leaves boys alone frequently
8yr old boy shares room with 8yr old girl (her roommates daughter)

Father
Married
Maintained same job
Spouse maintained same job
Pay Increases
Moved once due to Landlord Foreclosing
Stayed within 10 mile radius

Does this stability increase our chances for full custody or to be changed to primary at least. We only want what is best for the boys. The oldest is expressing his concern with failing 7th grade due to the absences. He is going through changes that he really needs a male in his life to help him with. My 8yr old is picking up all sort of nasty words and fowl language from his mother and the people they live with.

Unfortunately we cannot afford to pay a lawyer to help us and we are trying to do this on our own. Please can someone advise me if the Stability is a good case?

[Attorney Howard Iken]

I believe you have sufficient grounds for modification.

I would encourage you to spend some money on an attorney - even if it is for paperwork review. That will save you lots of problems in your case.

Attorney Howard Iken