New to the divorce scene

[Kravmom32]

Hi, I am a 32 year old stay at home mother of one and my husband (6 hrs married, 10 total) wants to file for divorce next month (to allow me to figure out school/ work etc). I am in a bit if denial and unsure exactly what questions to ask. I am scared I won't be able to financially stand on my own, since I do not have any of my own money and do not have a job or no real marketable skills, etc. I do have a plan for school and plan to start this January.

I am hoping to do mediation but have been told by friends that it might not be a good idea for me. I have spoken with an attorney over the phone and he said that there is no more primary parent? Is this true? What about what the child is used to? I have been the main care giver for my son. My husband has always worked a full time job and often goes on business trips. Just recently however, he has taken a work at home position. His new work position worries me since I will have to now go back to school and work all while caring for my son. My son is my number one priority but I worry that my husbands new position will allow him to look better for custody. Do I have a reason to be worried?

My other concern is alimony. The attorney in the phone told me that I will most likely be awarded very little since our marriage is considered short term dispite the fact that I am a stay at home mom and have litle earning potential. Is this true? And if this is true, would it be best to stay away from lawyers if I can get my soon to be ex husband to agree to help me until I can finish school?

Help!

Thank you!

[Attorney Howard Iken]

You should still go in an talk with an attorney in person. All the info you heard makes sense and is correct, but you may be misunderstanding how those concepts apply to you.

Mediation is always a good idea - as long as both sides are realistic and solution oriented.

In a marriage of six years, you may have a claim to some sort of shorter term alimony.

[aniahunks]

I know how painful it is to undergo divorce! well it is in your careful actions if you want to save your relationship. In the first place, you should try mediation between other friends together with a divorce lawyer to weigh in your situation. also try to consider your children's sake and the process if your would be able to cope with it.