How to keep the old lover away?

[jacquesroman]

My wife had a one-year affair with an old friend of mine. When I found out about it, we first discussed getting a divorce. It's been nearly 2 months now, my wife and I have forgiven each other and we want to go on with our lives without interference from the "old friend."

However, the problem is now exacerbate because she wants to stay married to me but also wants to stay in contact with the "old friend" and maintain a friendly relationship. He persists in calling her and they communicate via email and online chats, which is driving me into a frenzy. He has threatened me on the phone by stating "I can take you down," if I interfered. He has gone so far as to suggest in an email message that "we bury the hatchet" and resume our friendship as a ménage-a-trois, in that he would service my wife sexually while I watched. I still have the email and the entire header.

I think the guy is a mental case, but how can I keep him away from my family and the influence he maintains over my wife? I am driven to dispair by his arrogance and nonchalance. Is there anything I can do legally from keeping him away from my family? Greatly appreciate your advice.

[Attorney Howard Iken]

Florida used to have several "causes of action" that would address this situation. One of them was called "Alienation of Affection" and would have provided you with a method to file a lawsuit.

The current statues abolish all of the old "causes of action." In short: there is nothing you can do.

Attorney Howard Iken
The Divorce Center