4 kids, 99 problems

[csherman727]

my wife wants a divorce. she says she doesn't love me and now has a new boyfriend living in the house. i'm not leaving the house, i have 4 children who i cherish and love with all my heart (like my wife). realizing that my marriage is beyond saving i'm looking into all the different kinds of divorce and divorce writer services. we are both going to want to be the custodial parent of all 4 children (i would be willing to split them up). child ages are 7mo., 2 years, and 5 years (twins). obviously this is going to be a contested case, but what is the way to go? we both rent the house, i paid all the rent while we were together, but now we split bills 50/50 because her boyfriend (recently arrested for being an accessory after the fact) has no job no car. he is nice, and that makes it easier being in the same house (a lot of tension avoided). just a crappy situation, i could use some wisdom. thank you in advance.

[Attorney Howard Iken]

It would take a lot of wisdom to make you happy having her boyfriend live in your house. I am not sure I have that much wisdom.

You are living in a dangerous and explosive situation. There is a lot of potential for trouble.

My two cents: move out with the children, or some of the children. File for divorce. I do not believe a judge would like the fact that she moved a boyfriend into the house.





Attorney Howard Iken
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[csherman727]

we had decided that could agree upon me taking custody of the older twins, and her taking custody of the younger 2 children.

the next day she changes her mind and says, 'the judge won't split children, so i don't want to put that in the agreement'

i heard from a legal assistance phone line, not from an actual attorney, "that in most cases if the parents agree that the judge will not interfere" is this true?

i know that in a contested case one of us would end up with all 4 children and custody would be decided by the judge.

i need to know if the original agreement of splitting the children up would be honored, because i don't know if she's b.s.ing me or not.

[Attorney Howard Iken]

I believe a judge will sign off on split custody - as long as there are no red flags that jump out.