No Name - but I do have a number

[tominator]

I once believed that good always triumphs over bad. My heart is heavy over what has happened to my life in the past 2 years. There is no justice in the legal system in Polk County and I've lost my faith in the humanity of the people running it.

How does a man who never laid a hand on his wife get arrested for Domestic Violence?
Later, she laid my arm open with a broom requiring stitches, think I called the cops?
How could I spend $30,000 for attorney fees for a 5 year marriage with no kids?
How can a woman who was married 4 times and quit her job force a man to the edge of bankruptcy?
Why has it been 2 years and I still don't have a pre-trial court date?
Why are other attorneys aware of opposing counsel’s tactics of dragging things out to drive up the bills, and yet the judges are not aware of this?
Why should I have to stay married to a woman who has blown my money, forged my name and committed adultery?

My life, my accomplishments, my freedom and my integrity has been played with as if it was a toy. I was guilty of being "in love" with my wife and have yet to have my day in court to show how she treated me and our relationship during the course of the marriage. It is all about lying and deception though, so once again I will be defending my integrity against the "ghost" of whatever can be concocted. My friends, my family and even my former spouse of 14 years are infuriated over what has occurred.

I once thought that I had what it took to be a lawyer because I've managed to succeed in anything I put my mind too. I've found that the law is not about what is right, it is about manipulating others to believe in you (whether truthful or not). My wife is attractive and innocent looking, but I am a man who shows his years by working hard for his family and taking no handouts in life. I quit high school and later went into the Navy. I paid for my own college and graduated with honors. My credit score used to be in the 780s, I paid her pre-marital debts so her credit was better too. My reward for being productive and responsible is this!

I am a case number, not a human with a heart and a life according to the legal system. God and I know the events that occurred in the marriage, but that is of no consequence is it? All is not fair in love and war. The legal system stacks the cards against the man. When you are arrested, you are guilty until proven innocent in the court of law. Most Americans live in the fantasy that justice is always served. I was one of those people that was naive enough to believe that the justice system was doing good for the people. If you make too much money, you do not get free representation. As everyone knows, it does not matter if you make more because your bills are also higher. Since she decided not to work, there is a disparity in income that I may have to pay her attorney bills too!

What is my motive? That maybe somebody reading this can make a difference so somebody else does not go through this. DV laws, Family law (with no children), and no-fault laws need to be changed to be "fair". How would you like these laws used against you or someone you love? How would you like to spend 3 days in jail because it is assumed because you are a man, that you would use this physical advantage over a woman? How can a verbal accusation, with no physical evidence be used to send someone to jail? How would you like your spouse to run off to have an affair in another state while using your money to do it? Better yet, dissipate this and other money and want more than half of what is left, including premarital money.

I'm pretty sure that everyone that reads this blog is probably a bit smarter than me. Heck, if I was really smart I would not be in my situation, would I? You know what is broke in the system, do you have enough grit to change it. I am nobody, a number, a middle class working stiff caught up in a bureaucracy that is a machine that devoured my life in it’s path.

[yourneighbor]

You should be able to get divorced 5 times for that amount. I understand your frustration mate. Women DO have the upper hand and the law provides for them. Let's hope she chokes on her greed.

Just wanted to let you know your voice was heard.

[Attorney Howard Iken]

I am sorry you had this experience with our legal system.